By Erin K Costello
I realize my post will piss some people off, and maybe rightfully so, I don’t know. But, I do feel it needs to be said. So let me begin by saying that the examples I’m about to give or hint towards here are not to be accepted as cause for a person to take their own life. I am going to use certain situations loosely as a means to explain something, however I am not suggesting that blame for any known tragic death belongs anywhere or on anyone. I am not suggesting the victim is at fault for feeling such desperation, or for acting on their desperation. Death, regardless of how it happens, is the worst possible outcome for a worse possible situation. Blame has NO PLACE in any such tragedies.
I beg all parents who believe vaccines are poison, who believe vaccine injury exists, and who believe DNA from aborted fetuses somehow changes their child, to give me a minute of your time, and try to imagine something. I promise this isn’t going to be confrontational, mean, rude, or judgmental. I am only pleading with you to imagine being in someone else’s shoes for a moment. That someone else being your child.
Imagine you’re growing up at 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10 years old. Like any normal healthy young child growing up you view your mom as the most amazing, intelligent, strong, beautiful person in the world. You also see your dad as the strongest man there is, he’s your hero at these ages. You see them both tending to your every need, fulfilling many of your wants, and fiercely protecting you from everything. So naturally all through these ages whatever your parents teach you, or whatever they believe, you will also believe. What child wouldn’t?
Imagine that one of the many things they teach you or speak about often are that vaccines are dangerous, are poison, don’t work, and maim or kill other children. Imagine hearing this for your whole life (doesn’t matter if it’s true or not, that’s not at all my point here so please don’t feel attacked for your beliefs. Your beliefs and my beliefs are regardless). Imagine having cousins/siblings/other kids you know through your parents and family who have health issues, learning disabilities, or god forbid who have died. Imagine hearing from the two people you trust with your life and with your heart that these issues were all caused by vaccines. Of course you’d feel lucky and blessed to have parents who know better, and who would never risk your health or your life.
(Again, doesn’t matter if any of what is said here is right. What matters is that it’s believed to be right and real by the children in question)
Now, imagine that you suddenly need vaccines to attend school. Right or wrong, the government passes a law regarding vaccine requirements for attending school and other programs. You hear your parents complaining about this or maybe they come right out and tell you. So now, at any one of these young ages I mention above, you are learning that you have to go to school, it’s the law you receive an education, and you are learning that in order to follow that law you have to let the government force injections of poison inside of you, along with dead baby DNA that might cause you to change your gender identity. Suddenly you’re reminded of all the kids you know with skin issues, learning disabilities, physical injuries or deformations, or those who have died and you realize that you are now very likely to become one of these kids. You could die! You could develop impairments that will affect your whole life, cause you to miss out of life, lose friends, and make you a bit of an outcast to your peers. Imagine the anxiety, the terror, despair, and panic you would feel. Then imagine how you would feel if you learned this was all going to happen because your parents are choosing not to homeschool you (the reason on why they can’t homeschool doesn’t matter, I’m not judging nor should anyone else! This isn’t my point). Imagine knowing that there was a way for your parents to stop this assault and protect you but for reasons both big and small, and all very real, they simply can’t choose to save you. They choose to value other things like a home, car, food, paying bills, clothes etc...more than you, your health, or possibly your life.
Now, imagine you’ve had the shots. Your parents are making you take all these weird baths and giving you a bunch of pills to take. They’re supplements but you don’t really know what that means at such a young age. You just see them as a bunch of pills you have to take. You likely know by these ages that sick people take a lot of pills. So now you are fearing that you’re sick. Imagine that even though you feel fine, your mom keeps looking at you, searching for things that are wrong, damaged, or injured. Now imagine she believes she found some ailment(s). Maybe it’s that your eyes don’t look as bright, or you daydream more often, smile less, seem slower or more withdrawn, or maybe she will even blame normal child behaviors on the vaccines. Your tantrums, which are normal bouts of childhood frustration suddenly become something that is wrong about you, instead of seen normal expected behavior that you’ll eventually outgrow. Normal common behaviors or idiosyncrasies suddenly become the things that make you damaged, wrong, or just different from the rest of us. What if you’re told that simply being gay means you’re damaged from a vaccine? Now imagine having all of this, every single thing about you and your “damages” aired to the world on social media. Imagine reading about how your mom “can’t believe” this is all happening to her!
For just a moment, I want you to put those thoughts off to the side and imagine a slightly different scenario. Imagine you have health issues that make you dependent on your family. But before this, imagine you had a life where you were like any other child, active, happy, and independent. Now, imagine that’s gone in the blink of an eye. Suddenly, life as you’ve known it and have hoped for it, is all over by 14 yrs of age. Imagine feeling like this huge burden to your family that didn’t have to happen, and being constantly reminded about the life you once had, the body you once had, and the dreams you once had through their activism. Imagine seeing those pics of your formal self all the time. Now imagine being told this was all avoidable had you of just chose differently on a vaccine, on ONE single shot. Imagine being reminded constantly how this wasn’t out of your control like MS or something, that this was all caused by a single decision you made. Can you maybe see how a hormonal and depressed 14 year old child might consider ending their life? What if blaming the vaccine was wrong? Or, what if blaming the vaccine was right? Either way it doesn’t change the outcome.
Coming back to the first scenario as well as this new one, imagine how you would feel being the child in either one. Do you think this would all fuck you up in any way? Even if every one of you AVers are right about all the things you say about vaccines, and even if you’re right in that vaccines shouldn’t be mandatory to attend public schools, does this somehow make you right in manufacturing this terror in the minds of your children? Does it somehow make it ok to be the cause of why your children feel like there’s something wrong with them? Or that they aren’t as good as other kids for some reason? Do you think your child finds it troublesome that they are constantly being monitored by you and judged for all kinds of changes as they age, be it physical, emotional, mental, or even sexual if they come out as gay? Does reminding your kids of their newfound shortcomings, and sharing them with the world, with strangers on social media show you to be a good, loving, and selfless parent? Does constantly reminding your child that their condition could’ve been avoided and is solely to blame on them or you agreeing to get a vaccine somehow translate to your child that they are not to blame, it’s not their fault, and that no one would ever be better off without them exactly as they are? And finally, does doing all of this by CHOICE, does choosing an agenda over the emotional development of your child make you better than the moms whom you claim to risk their kids’ lives by vaccinating?
Believe what you want about vaccines. Choose what you want for your kids. I’m not judging either of these actions. What I am judging is that regardless of where you fall in this situation, if you use your kids to manufacture an image of proof that support your choices, instead of selflessly, unconditionally, loving and accepting your children for the wonderful unique individuals they are (and will continue to become), then you are an opportunist, selfish, egotistical, asshole with severely inflated delusions of grandeur and are undeserving of your children’s trust and love. Do not use them as tools or weapons in this discussion. They aren’t yours to use, and they aren’t a PR weapon. Don’t install fear in them and cause them to doubt themselves all throughout life because you focused on what was wrong with them, convincing them they are wrong and damaged as humans. It is your job as a parent to protect your child, even if at times that protection must be FROM yourselves.